| Sets standards beyond reach and reason | Sets high standards, but just beyond reach |
| Is never satisfied by anything less than perfection | Enjoys process as well as outcome |
| Becomes dysfunctionally depressed when experiences failure and disappointment | Bounces back from failure and disappointment quickly and with energy |
| Is preoccupied with fear of failure and disapproval — this can deplete energy levels | Keeps normal anxiety and fear of failure and disapproval within bounds — uses them to create energy |
| Sees mistakes as evidence of unworthiness | Sees mistakes as opportunities for growth and learning |
| Becomes overly defensive when criticized | Reacts positively to helpful criticism |